Saturday, June 7, 2014

You Never Forget Your First Time

     The fact that we have made it nearly three years without a major medical incident actually rather surprises me. Given the unwavering rambunctiousness and absolute disregard for caution normally displayed by my perpetually energized daughter, I generally feel that I am constantly wobbling on the precipice of a trip to the emergency room.  My fear finally achieved fruition on a recent Friday evening when a two-and-a-half year old found that she was no match for gravity or the principle of the fulcrum.
     My daughter has stopped taking naps. My wife and I believe that her stubbornness is outweighing her need to sleep, as although she develops the zombie eyes of death every afternoon, she absolutely refuses to nap. This has been made abundantly clear to me by her pre-school teacher who consistently regales me with stories of how my daughter, despite her obvious fatigue, tries her best to wake up her little friends during nap time so they can go perform random acts of anarchy and chaos. I have found that by Friday evening, after a full week of no napping, trying to pick my daughter up from school without incident is akin to attempting to put an angry Tasmanian Devil into a straight jacket. Therefore, I try to prepare myself mentally before undertaking that task.
     This particular Friday evening pick up was going as I had anticipated: an absolute refusal to cooperate accompanied by incomprehensible, guttural screams which I’m fairly certain were curse words from some Germanic based language. After a few minutes, she had calmed down to the point where we could walk toward the corner of the classroom where her cubby-hole, containing her lunch box and her never used cot linens, was located. I was holding her hand as we were walking (I have to hold her hand when we are trying to leave because, if I don’t, she will turn and run at warp speed out of her class, through the hallway and into a room far, far away where she will hide under whatever furniture is present so she can assert her desire to stay and play with her friends, even though they are all going home as well, albeit with much less of a drama filled and catastrophic process) and as we approached her cubby-hole to retrieve her belongings, she decided to once again ignite a toddler temper tantrum by dramatically jumping, performing a perfect plank in mid-air and flopping flat on the floor, all whilst kicking and screaming. Unfortunately, because I was holding her hand during that entire, split-second exhibition, her elbow became the hinge which was swinging her entire mass. Toddler elbows, apparently, are not made to do that, so they hyper-extend and induce a condition which I now know is called Nursemaid’s Elbow.
     She was actually rather calm and quiet in the Urgent Care waiting room, which combined with the fact that she was not moving her left arm, illustrated that there was indeed something wrong. She passed the two hours we sat in that chamber of horrors by making funny faces at the nurse behind the admissions desk and pointing at random, injured people and whispering, “Look, they’re in the hospital too.” After another hour having x-rays taken and being subjected to the prodding of a rather nice, but totally befuddled medical practitioner, I have found evidence that non-pediatric physicians really don’t know what to do with children other than offer them lollipops and princess stickers in hopes that they will be quiet and grow out of whatever is ailing them. This became inherently obvious when the doctor said, “The X-Ray is normal, but her elbow is obviously in pain…I don’t know what’s wrong with her. Here, have some princess stickers. I suggest you take her to an orthopedist. I’ll call you to find out how she’s doing.” He never called. Other than getting a cool, black arm sling to keep her immobilized, we were no closer to being healed. I could have saved three hours and given her some princess stickers myself, we have tons of them.   
     MY wife was just as flabbergasted as I was at Western Medicine’s apparent ineffectiveness, so she aired her disgruntled point of view with a brief synopsis of the night’s event on Facebook (I am not at all savvy on the use of social media, so she takes care of all that). Literally fifteen seconds later a good friend of mine responded with, “Oh did you snatch her arm or something? It’s happened to my kids, like, three times. It’s called Nursemaid’s Elbow. You’ll have to give it a Mr. Miyagi.” As I vaguely remembered the Karate Kid reference, I texted him to find out a little more info. “What is it?”
“Nursemaid’s Elbow. Look it up on YouTube. I fixed my kids’ elbows when the doctors didn't know what was wrong, sounds like the same thing.”
“Does it really work?”
“Yeah, it works. It’s going to HURT, but it’ll be fine right after.”
      Since Western Medicine had failed me miserably, I saw nothing wrong with taking a totally unqualified Chinese-American’s medical advice, which was based solely on internet videos and a 1980s action movie. I watched the suggested video and memorized the procedure. My wife had just given our daughter at bath and she was now sitting on our bed whilst my wife attempted to get her into her pajamas. I stealthily crept to the other side of the bed and approached quietly, as not to rouse any suspicion from my daughter. I gave my wife, who was aware of my plan, but in total disbelief, a nod to signal its commencement. The game was now afoot. I crawled onto the bed and gently grasped my daughter’s injured arm as my wife held her good arm away, and I began the procedure. A slow movement here, then a total extension and flexion, and “POP”, everything was back as it should have been. Good as new. The instant the arm popped back into place, my daughter went off like an atomic bomb and screamed, “NAAAAAOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!” and began to pummel the daylights out of me with her newly functioning arm. Her other arm, which my wife had recently released, quickly joined the fray and began to batter my face with all of the vigor a two-and-a-half year old can muster. The only reaction I could summon was hysterical laughter as I realized the utter ridiculousness of the situation. My wife, apparently overcome by the sight of her crazed daughter trying to murder her hysterical husband, muttered, “I have to go…” and with mouth agape and eyes wide in disbelief at the insanity that had unfolded before her turned and sauntered toward the stairs.
I hope the next time is much less awkward.